You know how people blame Disney movies for giving people unrealistic expectations about love? Well, I blame porn for giving me unrealistic expectations about sex. If porn were any indication of people's everyday sex lives, we'd all be firing off liquid streams of erotic bliss at every climax. Sorry, but no. That said, this elusive sex sensation isn't entirely impossible.

Many experts still question whether female ejaculation even exists —in the year we still haven't yet sorted out female sexual physiology. Anything to do with female sexuality has been, and continues to be, taboo in the strongest sense of the word. This is what fuels my work as a sex therapist turned neuroscientist —and exactly what I explore in my Glamour column, Ask. Nan , and in my new book, Why Good Sex Matters. The truth is we probably know just as much if not more about the composition of the fluids that flowed on the surface of Mars billions of years ago than we do about the nature of what is expelled by the human female during sex.

When I finally let go and did what felt pleasurable is when it first happened. The intensity just kept increasing, and it kind of hit a plateau before I squirted. I tensed up which I would later find helps the process along quite a bit , then I found myself completely sated.